Men and Women are Wired

I have this theory. You can tell me if it holds water or not.
Men and women are different! (Not an earth-shaking discovery, but read on!) I believe women are initially wired by God to be loving, to fall in love, to love all those around them...basically to love being in love. This has something to do with the nurturing of the race. Supposedly, this womanly love will protect the children of the love process.
I believe men, however, are initially wired by God to resist it. This is possibly to ensure a proper mating within the race. Supposedly, that's how they'll know when they are really in love...the woman will get through their wall.
So, if women are spreading their love all around, and men are hiding theirs under lock and key, it only serves to reason that men are capable of giving more love to that one special woman than the woman is capable of giving to him. Women love more often, so does that mean men love more?
I know, I know...you can't quantify that, nor do we have a limited amount of love. But if a man truly loves a woman, nothing will ever be able to change his mind about her. You see it all the time.
When a man falls in love, truly falls in love (not of the "What a beautiful babe!" variety of love), he will adore her as long as she gives him a minimal amount of attention. Women though unfortunately, even when in love, require more than that.
It's as if the man is standing behind a brick wall. Woman enters with sledgehammer and starts pounding away. Some get tired and leave the job undone, walking away to find a weaker wall. Others pound for as long as they can before collapse. They will lay in front of that wall for the rest of their lives, wondering what it would be like to visit him inside, but knowing they never will. And then, one comes along, striking the weakened fortress in just the right spot, causing rock and mortar to fall all around him. She's in.
But with women, it's different. She has walls of stick and adobe. They're not terribly hard to break down, but as soon as the man gets inside through his little hole, she begins to patch the wall. Unlike the man's rock wall which would take a lot of work and time to rebuild, hers is simple to rebuild. Easy to tear down, but just as easy to resurrect. So the man's job is to continually demolish it until she tires of rebuilding and accepts that he is there to stay.
My point...Now, when they are confident of each other, this initial wiring has achieved God's purpose of marital union. A man and a woman then will have the relationship God wants.
I heard a quote once a long time ago and it stuck with me for some unknown reason. I believe it was from Will Rogers. He said, "Those who don't love often, love too much." I think men often fall into that category. On the other hand, I think that those who do love often, may love too cautiously. And some women often fall into that category.

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